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Blogging is HARD

This post is difficult for me to write, but I feel like it’s something I just need to get out of my system. Blogging is hard. It’s been way harder than I ever thought it would be. A little less than a year ago, I began feeling a real push to share more about my story and my life. Sharing my story was extremely therapeutic for me. I loved letting it all out, and having the opportunity to connect with others’ in the adoption world. It gave me a real sense of purpose and healed my heart in ways I didn’t even know it needed.

However,  I didn’t want my blog to be focused 100% on adoption. I wanted to show that my adoption story is just a defining chapter in my life, not the ending. I labeled myself as more of a lifestyle blogger and went with that. I began to not only share about my life, but I had the opportunity to work with some amazing companies, attend blogging events and meet some of the raddest people. I soon found out how cool the blogging world is and I loved being apart of it! I had a passion for all things blogging, and felt like I’d found something I had been missing in my life. In true Melinda fashion, I dove in head first and didn’t look back.

Being a successful blogger/instagrammer is 100% up to you. If you put in the work, you will find success. I soon found that the work needed was more than I’d anticipated. It was getting to the point where I was constantly thinking/planning about what to post and when to post it both on my blog and social media accounts. Lot’s of photoshoots, events, meetings, stress and anxiety. It was never my goal to try and portray myself as having the perfect life because obviously it’s been the furthest things from perfect. I wanted to keep things real while also having pretty pictures to go along with it. The balancing act of it all became overwhelming. Balancing sharing my adoption story without overkilling it, sharing my real life, sharing my favorite brands, and doing the occasional giveaway. I feel like sometimes I did too much of one thing and not enough of the other and it was always stressing me out.

I’ve never wanted to be the mom who spends too much time behind her phone, constantly on the gram and trying to take pictures of my kids but I was definitely turning into that mom. It was shocking how much this world affected my personal life in such a short period of time. I was tempted to just delete it all (like my social media hating husband) but I love so much about it that I didn’t want to go that far. I also still had that passion for sharing my story and blogging about life, I think it just got to be too much.

So here I am after taking a bit of a break. I haven’t blogged for nearly a month, and my instagram posts have been few and far between. Taking a step back really helped put things into perspective. I was able to focus more on my family, home and “day” job while getting together a game plan of how I wanted to proceed.

I said it before and I’ll say it again: Blogging is HARD. I have mad respect for those who have turned it into a career. These people work so incredibly hard and I honestly don’t think they get nearly enough credit for all they do. Social media is a huge blessing, but it can also be a huge curse. I haven’t found the perfect formula of how to balance it all (if you have, PLEASE tell me haha), but I do know that I’ll be trying my darnedest to figure it out.

I just wanted to give a huge thanks to everyone who reads and follows along with my imperfect life. Thanks for sticking with me. Your love and support mean the world to me and it’s been such a blessing to get to know so many lifelong friends through this new journey. I look forward to writing more, and being even more authentic with my posts. Life is about doing our best, and that’s my plan.

Thanks for letting me vent. Love you all and I hope you have a very Merry Christmas season!